Thursday, 12 November 2015

Does Money Control you ?

     Recently, I experienced a situation. I saw how people react when they realized there is not enough money. Most of us have this "never enough" policy. The more we accumulate money, the more it brings us into the "never enough" world. The meaning of "never enough" is you are never satisfied with what you have. Having millions or billions would not satisfy the “never enough” policy.






     Well think about the fact that the currency we have exchange is nothing more than a printed paper. It does not really have any value except the value that had been assigned to it. Why would we want to measure our personal worth against printed paper that has no value ?      

         "Having lots of money equals being well respected" – that is the mind-set that millions of people have adopted. To some degree, our sense of self growth and security tends to rise and fall with the rise and fall of our income. And regardless of how we reason on it out intellectually, the truth is most of us have an emotional connection with money because the feeling is always better when finances are not an issue. Obviously we need some financial security in our lives. But apart from this we have a life to live. Life where we take more responsibilities to make it happier not richer.   
  
     
        So coming back to the situation I was talking about earlier. Fortunately, at that point of time I was aware what was happening. The words that come out from a person's mouth when he or she is very emotional. I was stunned. I do not know what to say when the person’s emotions are high. I kept quiet and went off from that place. 


       When I spoke to my mentor about it, he actually said that I have something to learn from the situation - . because whatever situation Nature puts us in, it is for us to learn something from there. So he asked me to learn how money control people’s emotion. As human beings, we are also emotional beings and most of the times, we are in situations where we make emotional decisions about our money. 









        When we are dealing with negative emotions that have potential for creating emotional spending, realize that its OK to engage in that emotion some time. We could allow ourselves to feel the emotion for a short time, and then move on, and find a productive way to change things for the better instead. We can commit ourselves to productive action and come up with some small things we can do to control the situation we are dealing with. Allow ourselves to worry about it for a few minutes, and then take some concrete steps towards fixing the problem. That is how it has to be. 



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