Always Focus on Lessons

So as I told you all how my Subconscious mind is learning, here is another lesson.

A few days ago, I was working with a group of people. We were working on a recording. I knew I had things to learn from that day. Because Nature wanted me to be there alone to handle and organize the whole thing. On top of that, we had a long schedule for recordings on that day. I was so nervous and scared to even think about it. My partner was not free because she had something else on that day. One day before the recording I was trying my best to organize things accordingly. Some of things I did were creating Whatsapp groups, sending them the scripts, and explaining a few things about the recording.

That night I even had a conversation with my mentor. He asked me " Can you handle? " I said I do not want to say NO, as I want to learn to handle it. I was more aware and confident after talking to him. The next day, I had my lunch with the two guys who are helping me out with the recording. Everything was went fine and it started off nicely. There were lessons to learn throughout the entire recording period.

Basically my senses saw a few situations during the recording. In one of them, I assumed that the specific emotion that one of the people who were there with me was being shown was towards me. I was upset with the person. Maybe I could not understand why that person needed to be angry with me and why that person needs to show such emotions towards me? First mistake, I saw the other person reacting and I got upset. I assumed things. I judged the person.

This lesson I only learnt few hours after the recording when I was texting my mentor. He got me to see things clearly.

So my Subconscious gave me the similar situation few days back and I reacted to it. So this one, how did I handle it? The good thing here is I did not react. I definitely understood that this was my sub's work and I had something to learn. I wanted to get my work done properly and to stay focused. I did not react to it. I did not react yes, but felt slightly emotional. I was trying my best to use S.I.E.P multiple times and come out from the situation.

I did not want to show the same emotions to the other person, as I tried my best to be very friendly and polite with everyone. This does not mean I am hiding the situation inside and am trying to show a different one. I was trying to get my intellect to click in, so that I would not be emotional and could see things clearly. I failed to do so.

Maybe I am just a beginner. I had the knowledge that things need to seen S.I.E.P way. But trying to put it into practice wasn't so easy. I took couple of deep breathes and continued my work.
Then that situation was followed by another one. Again I started to see people finding fault at me. I told myself. Okay this is definitely another test and let's handle this carefully. So when this happened, I wanted to learn the lesson from here. My script had some grammatical issues. At first when I heard it (senses) I understood that it is another test.

Then decided to not to react. I told them that they could always correct the script according to their own flow, as long as the content is there I am fine with it. This made my emotions calmer because I tried to understand the situation. Here the lesson was that next time I have to take extra efforts to edit my script.

I can see that my Subconscious is learning and adapting to the changes that I have been making. Few days back it reacted to similar situations. And this time it did not react; but I had to try my best and take effort to see and understand the situation in a S.I.E.P way. Then after end of the recording, I got a nice tight hug from one of my good friends. She was pretty helpful throughout the recording.

After the recording, I was texting my partner the things that had happened. She was explaining things in a more clearer view. She got my emotions to click with my intellect to think and understand the situation better. Why it happened and what do you have to learn from here; always focusing on the lesson that you have got to learn from the particular situation.

 I am changing my programming. Things happening around me are because of my old programming and by learning how to respond to them one by one, eventually my subconscious would get what I am trying to change here.


Mistakes and lessons are the perfect combination for my learning curve

My Subconscious Mind is learning!

As I am changing from a senses based world, I faced another situation where I could choose to respond but I reacted.

My mentor was teaching me that S.I.E.P based way, you should not control your emotions. You could not stop what is happening around you. And you should not try to do so. By controlling your emotions, you have already reacted. So that is already considered P.E.I.S. In contrary, S.I.E.P is when you understand clearly why is this happening and what are the better ways to handle it. Knowing that the situation has something to teach you, you would not get emotional.

So as I mentioned earlier, I am trying hard to come out from it, I tend to make a lot of mistakes. Because, to create a mess, my sub only needs a starter.  It creates situations so that I would react to it. The situation that it had created was, people finding fault at me. Everything happened in a blink of an eye. My mind knows that I don't like people doing that. As it does that, I reacted. I got angry over the person whom was trying to find fault at me.

By right, I should I have understood that this is another test from nature. I have to say that it is not going to be easy at first and it takes time. And I also know that this is something that could be done. I mean come on! Why not ? Let's do this. If this is what I want, then I shall go through all the tests nature is giving. The reminder that I got from my mentor was, he was saying that the situations and tests that I am going through now are just the starting. Eventually I would receive more and it is not going to be easy.

He was constantly asking whether this is what i want and I could always go back to my old days whenever i want to do so. But I know I am not going to do it. Facing all these may sometimes sound funny. Because the different ways my sub is trying to bring me back. If I passed one test and the next one is just few minutes later.

As i realized that people finding fault, basically people are just giving suggestions. No one is finding fault or laughing at me. It is my sub who has triggered people's emotions and created all these. Yes I am not here to blame anyone. I take full responsibility for what had happened. When i reacted, I made the other person to react back and later on I kept quite because it started from me. The other person was also reacting because of me.

But if this had happened a year ago the argument would have just continued. Now I could understand why it happened and what am I supposed to do for the next time when anything similar happened. I spoke about this to another good friend of mine. She told me something was very encouraging and motivating. She said my Subconscious is learning. It happens. So that your Subconscious can learn things out of it. It is finding its own way to adapt to the changes.

So wish me luck to handle things better next time :)

I am definitely having fun!

Here I am to share about how my semester holidays are going on.

As an ordinary student, I thought my semester holidays is going to be filled only with entertainment. Even a few weeks before that, I was already planning to schedule how my holiday has to be. The movies that I want to watch, places that I want to go, the things that I want to buy.

So as I finished my exams, I met my mentor, Elango Thiyagu.(http://elangothiyagu.com/ ) As it was hard to meet up with him during my exams. I was so excited that my semester holidays have just started and I wanted to have more fun. In a very very excited mood, I told my mentor that I am on break. I wanted to tell him all the plans that I had for this holiday. But all I received was, "Okay good. You can work more on your goals" (WHAT ) Hahahaha I know I went like “Seriously!” But I did not say anything. I replied with a " Oh! why not"

But you would never know how happily I am enjoying my holidays now. I get to work on my goals all day long! That is 24 hours and 7 days. Can you believe it? But I don't work that whole 24 hours of course. I get to work anytime and anywhere I want on something I love and am passionate about. It has been two weeks and I have been to only one movie. But that's not the point. I'm working on something and heading somewhere. It was so perfect that the project that I am working on has something for me to do for the proposal. It is not so secret by the way. I am working on an online radio. It is not up yet. We are in the process of bringing it up.

Yes I do procrastinate but I use my willpower and try my best to not to stay at home. Plus the amazing people that I work with get me moving. Every weekly Tuesday meetings (ET Ideas)(https://www.facebook.com/ETIdeasGroup/) I get inspired as I see Joyce, the founder of Simply Empowering Enterprise,( http://simplyempowering.net/ ) being so organized in what she does. Valsala, the founder of Globetrotter Consultancy (http://globetrotterconsultancy.com.my/,) who has never failed to call and work on her marketing. Yumitra, ( http://www.pensiveyumi.blogspot.my/ ) who has been writing amazing articles and to be truthful I get motivated to write because of her. Heerraa and Harsha, the rock stars who also write amazing articles while working on their goals. Three of these girls are still schooling and when I see them writing stuff, I get jealous too. But it is good as they are motivating me to write more.

Weekly Tuesdays meeting 

Weekly Tuesdays meeting 

Not forgetting the two wonderful people that I am working with, Rammyashieny ( http://clickingpens.com/ ) and Nicky Cheng! I meet Rammya almost every day. We work on ET Youth (https://www.facebook.com/ETYouth ) planning and on the online radio. We plan things a day before, like the location and timing. Apart from working on goals she also helps me in my personal growth. Where we get to talk about our subs antics. I get to learn lots of things from Nicky Cheng's experiences as well. Working on something you love can be so fun. You might not get what I mean here. But believe me; I am having so much of fun people!

And I'm also very lucky to have amazing parents. They know that I am on my semester break. They could always expect me to stay at home and do chores or clean up things. Yes I do the chores because I want to make my mom happy but I need a different environment away from home to focus and work on my goals. My dad could just stop giving me allowance as I am not going to college. But when I explained to him that I am on my semester break and I am going out every day to do work he has agreed to continue to give me allowance.

I am seeing my semester break as a golden opportunity to work more on my goals and spend more time in the right environment. I get to attend Coffee With ET.(https://www.facebook.com/ascendancepro/) Before this my college schedule didn’t favour this talk but with the break I’m allowed to listen to my mentor more. I spend more time with successful people and those who listen to their hearts. I used to hunt for ways to work on my goals during college time. But now to know that I have so much time to work excites me.

Apart from working on goals, I also learn more about myself. Mind you, my sub has been showering me with lessons. Also working towards my goal eventually helps me to learn more about myself. I am grateful to learn things from my mentor. He spends his time to teach me things. To be truthful, I have learned lots of lessons during these past two weeks. I have made mistakes and learning through mistakes gives you great lessons because it comes with pain . Hahaha !!

And can you believe that I did not go out with my friends? HAHA I was so used to going out with my friends. This time, I did not contact them and I don't think they even know that I am on my break. It is funny how things have changed and I am truly happy to be who I am now. In a way my mom is happy that I don't go out with friends. Having some meaningless friends is also a waste. I may sound rude. But I don't see the point of having people who does not contribute to my growth or anything else around me. And I am already starting to lose friends. Which is good :) 

Learn, practice and change slowly.

I was an ordinary girl with so much of dramas and emotions. Today when I sit back and gaze at the people who remind me how I lived my life earlier, sometimes I feel it's sad that I wasted 20 years of my life. In contrary, I can also perceive it in a positive way; Nature wants me to go through these 20 years, so that I could see the bigger picture of life. Now I can see the importance of living life following your heart not your mind and senses. I am working with a group of wonderful people and they do listen to their heart. This help me in my personal growth and also business career. (ttps://www.facebook.com/ETIdeasGroup/)

The team working on their goals during Tuesday meetings. 

You heart has a blueprint of your life. I’m still not so sure how to address the heart. Whether to call it he or she! Since I am a girl I believe my heart is also a girl. Hahaha So I would like to address it as She. So coming back, she would know what you want in your life and your mind would try it’s best to not to let you to hear what it is. At certain points of your life your heart would speak to you. But if you don’t listen or maybe if you don’t know it’s your heart or mind, then it would keep quite. Only by being aware and conscious of it, we can use our will power to get what our heart wants. 
So how I see things now is different and to think back to how I used to be was hilarious. 

My family. It’s an ordinary family. My dad is a retired employee from Sin Chew Daily Printing Press. My mom is a housewife. Both of them are Gen- X and they do have the characteristics of a typical Gen-X's. I cannot blame them here because they have been trained to do that. Finances in family were not that difficult as my dad has a travel and tour company. They have their own dreams and wishes on how to build their children up. So when I decided to change my perception towards life and re- program my Subconscious Mind, they didn’t like it. It was totally contrary from their view of life.

I faced the normal dramas in my family, where petty little issues can easily derail our communication, and as importantly I realized how strong P.E.I.S was in my family. (http://pensiveyumi.blogspot.my/2015/11/the-siep-principle.html). Check out this blog to know what is P.E.I.S and S.I.E.P (which I am going to talk later in this blog). Our senses see and hear what is happening, we become emotional over things and then come to misguided conclusions because of our critical thinking about certain things. But once we started thinking in a P.E.I.S way, it has already caused massive amount of damage. So for me to get out of this way of thinking was pretty hard and I am still trying my best. Also check out this blog where she explains her experiences on S.I.E.P. ( http://rammyasmusings.blogspot.my/2015/06/the-ripple-effect.html)

How my life was full of P.E.I.S? (Physical to emotions to intellectual to spiritual) During my school days I did not like being scolded by mom, dad or sometimes sisters too. But that does not mean I now like being scolded. It is just that now I understand why it is happening and how I am supposed to respond and not react for that situation. My mom used to scold me like nobody’s business if she finds me procrastinating on my chores. But apart from that I also have to say that I was not making them happy as I go back home late very often. I made them upset many times. The words that I used may have hurt them. So I also contributed for the drama. I did not like them finding faults in me. I hated my sisters for being so rude and I myself was an egoistic junk. I used to hide their things and pretend that I did not know what happened to them. 


And this was when I was really small, okay! So as I grew up, I reduced doing all these nonsense. I was tired of doing it but still was carrying the same characteristics. Back then, I used to make dramas for tiny issues. Just for a remote control, t-shirts, water bottles, bags, and many more.

Now the lesson here is you are who you see. So if you see that someone is being rude it means that actually you have that character in you. So I started seeing the good in others, although sometimes if I don’t admire their character I try to look at it from their position and try to think the good things that I could point out from their character. 

This is a picture briefly explains what is S.I.E.P from Rammya's mussings. 

But now to think of all the dramas that I was involved in, I just want to sit and laugh. I was so childish and I did not know I had so much of things to see out there. So when I started practicing S.I.E.P, I thought of trying things in a different way, finding out what Nature has for me to explore and what my heart wants to embark on. So as I am trying to follow S.I.E.P, whenever my mom scolds, I take a deep breathe. I will see what Nature is trying to teach me here. I am practicing to respond and not to react. 

At first it was quite hard to follow. I would be texting my mentor whenever any of these dramas took place at my house. He taught me to analyse the situation.(http://elangothiyagu.com/) Check out his blog to know more about him. Why is it happening? Well definitely the situation that I was going through was P.E.I.S. So when someone is changing from P.E.I.S to S.I.E.P they will attract more P.E.I.S situations and also individuals. So that was when I started attracting many dramas that was led by only the senses. Now it still happens. But I start finding it funny and I try my best not to contribute anything or to get involved in it. I realized it was also the old programming of my Subconscious where it was trying to do its work, which is to follow the things that has been already programmed. 

So now I am moving on to another important lesson in my life. And this is also when I was changing my programming to S.I.E.P. Well let me tell you what was my world before this and what kind of people were around me. All of my friends were in relationships. Both of my sisters were in relationships. And I am not so sure whether all of their relationships were S.I.E.P, but most are attracted by their senses. That was what I thought relationships were supposed to be like. I did not have any other exposures in relationships. 

When I saw and heard stories from people who were in senses based relationships, my favorite Subconscious fella also programmed it into me. I cannot blame her either because she is doing her work. I have been programming it wrongly. My mentor taught me how a relationship should be, why all these senses based relationships aren't leading to your growth, why a relationship has to be S.I.E.P. I’m not a pro at it yet and I am still learning this particular part. At first my Subconscious could not accept the fact of S.I.E.P relationships. 

This is because my earlier programming was too strong. I even fell sick because my Subconscious couldn’t accept these facts.  It is just that I need to take more conscious effort to put it into practice. I myself do attract senses based individuals. All of sudden a long lost friend could just call me and ask to meet up. I received texts asking whether I am still single. To be honest I failed the tests Nature gave me. I let my mind distract me. 

Apart from that, I don’t really have much experience in S.I.E.P relationships as I am still learning. I know there are a lot of things for me learn in a S.I.E.P relationship. So I will write about this in detail when I have more experience on it.

What is and why appreciation???

I’m BACK! (haha) I was not writing for past two months because of my assignment submissions and exams. Now that I am on my semester holidays, I would like to write about some of the things that I have experienced in these past two months. Talking about the things that I have learnt, I did not expect to learn so many lessons and I just can’t wait to share my experiences here. 

But I started writing this blog today to show my appreciation to a woman whom I have so much of respect for. 

Well before I go further, why and what is appreciation??? 

"Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step forward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation” – Brian Tracy

 People tend to willingly follow others who make them feel good about themselves. It sounds so simple, yet the expression of sincere gratitude is rare. It is simply yet not so easy and frequently not considered important to convey the real appreciation you have for someone. Appreciation is needed more than any kind of personal dignity. Too many people and things in our lives are taken for granted. As we grow older and put pieces of our lives together, we sometimes tend to overlook the underlying importance of certain things and certain people in our lives. But when we get to the stage where we realize that life is not what we imagined it to be; we will make it how we want it to be. We get so caught up in the negative situations that we find ourselves not appreciating the more positive aspects of our lives. If we do not make the conscious effort to appreciate what we have, it is often all too easy to focus on what we do not have and that can turn into a sense of self-complacency rather than a feeling of self – empowerment.

There’s always something or someone to show appreciation to. We have our families to appreciate; we have strangers who help us. We can do it so by voicing sincere compliments, taking the time to write a note and honestly showing our delight so others feel special. It also helps us to realize what we have, and to be grateful for the opportunities and blessings. Furthermore, saying ‘thank you’ is a display of appreciation for something someone gave you or did for you. This act would make the receiver of the ‘thank you’ feel appreciated, and make you feel happy. 

So I am here to thank a woman who has been helping me, or to be more accurate, guiding me in my personal growth and also my business career. Her name is Rammyashieny. She is the founder of ‘Clicking Pen’ (her company’s name)( www.clickingpens.com). She produces corporate videos and hosts ET youth.(https://www.facebook.com/ETYouth/?fref=ts&ref=br_tf) It is a talk where they aim to empower today’s youth to find their passion and be the best that they can be through the guidance of the Elango Thiyagu. He is my mentor.(http://elangothiyagu.com)

To be honest when I started attending ET youth, I was not so consistence as my subconscious tried its best to make me stay away from the new environment that I was about to embark on. She sent me invites every week and texted to know why I was absent for that week’s talk. Not only that, almost every week she used to arrange transport for me to go back home after ET youth. I respected her consistency and willingly wanted to know about what is going on in that new environment. She gave me the opportunity to talk to my mentor. The things that he explained were different and somehow it interested me. As my mentor started teaching me, she was also there to explain things a bit clearer and she would give her own life experiences. So the more I opened up, told her what I want, what is happening around me, the more she shared her experiences to me. She is a very young woman and it is not easy for her to get where she is now.

She would always make sure that I am okay ( mentally and emotionally) I receive texts asking “Are you okay Thiviya?” And this continues until today. I was a stranger to her when I first met her. But what made her care for me so much? During the ET Ideas meeting, (http://et-ideas.com/) and ET youth, she would willingly spend some time to listen to my updates and stories. I also made sure to travel all the way from Kelana Jaya to Bukit Jalil just to meet her, work with her. I think I even have told her that it is a good feeling to be around and learning things from her. Also her experiences are similar to what I am going through. 

 Fortunately what my heart wants is similar to what she has been doing. So that gave me the platform to talk to her every week and she helped me to figure out what course to choose for my degree. She also guides me in my college life since she was also a college student before. Talking about my personal growth, the only person I talk to other than my mentor is she. My mentor also encourages me to share with her and spend more time with her since we have similar goals. Spending my days with her, I am learning so many things. 

Whenever I go off track she would be there to put me back onto the track and explain why and how things went wrong. She keeps things up-to-date on what is happening to me, my exams, assignments, situations with my family. I would like to thank her for all the guidance and encouragement she gives me even until this present moment..

Lastly, thank you for everything! This is one of my lessons that I want to share. Because during the past two months when I was more focused on my college assignments, she simply guided me on how to manage my things; having both assignments and work. I am very lucky to have her around me. I face amples of obstacles lots of times and the good things I see are there are people who guiding and helping me throughout my journey. Also not forgetting my mentor who always there to teach me. THANK YOU!

“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.” – John f. Kennedy